Romance

Dating again when your middle aged can be a scary experience with the scare level dependent on when you dated last. The dating world is a strange unfamiliar place and even though you want to meet someone new, you just don't know how to navigate this new area effectively. So how do you start dating again when you are middle aged?

1. What do you want? Before you start dating ask yourself what it is that you want. What kind of partner do you want? What age, height, values, faith etc should they have? If you know what you want then you are more likely to find it. If you don't know what you want then you will take anyone and therefore you will waste time and energy.

2. Co-opt family and friends. Seriously... this can work for you. I know it sounds a little timid but you want to wet your feet in the dating pool in a safe place. So casually let them know that you want to start dating again and see what happens. Don't put the pressure on them but let this be one of your potential dating avenues. And then make sure you turn out for their invites so that you can see what is available in their circle of friends. You would be surprised at the variety of people the friends of your friends or family know!

3. Go online. Again this will help you ease into the dating scene. There are dating sites catering to every taste; partners of different ages, from different parts of the world, of any age and persuasion, of a specific faith etc. Whatever it is that you are looking for you can narrow your search fairly well. This will give you an idea of what is available to you and you can try different sites to see which suit your needs best.

4. Go where they are. Since you know where the kind of partner you want can be found then go to there. If you are a little apprehensive go with a friend the first time so they can help you ease into the dating scene.

5. Open your eyes. As you go about your normal daily routine do so with your eyes 'open' in the sense of looking out for potential partners. Be open and friendly to people as you never know where a partner may be lurking just waiting for you.

Starting to date again when you are middle aged can be intimidating but if you follow these 5 helps you will find it less so. Be yourself and enjoy the experience.

Dating is not only fun but can also be beneficial to one's emotional, physical and mental health. This is due to our most basic need of companionship.

When we live in isolation we are not living to our full potential. Our emotional health has a direct relationship on the quality of our relationships. We are placed on this earth to be a companion to someone. The scriptures are very clear about this. In Genesis 2:24 a man shall leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife. God created us to be of one flesh and to have that companionship not for a season but for a lifetime. Sometimes things do not work out the way we want and we are left alone in a very scary world. There is no need to fear. You can ax the fear with just one click.

On-Line dating services have become one of the number one way to meet people who are looking for the same thing that you are looking for. The benefits of on-line dating are many. You have the benefit meeting a multitude of people from the privacy and security of your home. Whatever your goals that you have for your personal relationships, online dating is the best way to meet and more importantly screen potential mates or friends. Why not narrow you search and see what other have to offer. When you start your search for that someone special begin with the end in mind. This is to say that you need to define to yourself what you want. Not only do you need to know what you want you will also need to define what you are able to give to this relationship.

The relationship will not only affect you, but all who love and care for you. If you are older and have adult children and grand children their needs and feeling must be taken into consideration. If you are just thinking about dating again you may want speak to your children about your choice. This may help when it comes to introducing that someone special to them. Remember you are the one that can be a person of growth and prosperity or you can choose to be alone and never live up to your full potential. That special person will not only compliment you, but will drive you to greater heights than you could accomplish by yourself. But you must take the first step into greatness. So, what are you waiting for? Get out there and make some history.

Many younger women are dating older guys for very good reasons. Older guys have throughout the ages represented maturity, stability and experience that younger men simply cannot match. There are challenges when it comes to mixed age dating.

Younger women who want to date mature men are not just looking for a daddy figure or a sugar-daddy as some would immediately jump to. Instead these women are genuinely interested in living a better life and want the experienced hand of someone who has "been there, done that" without all the time involved in the hard lessons that life can sometimes throw at you.

Think about it. If you could gain experience second hand that drove your dreams through to completion years before you could have on your own, would you take that opportunity? You'd be foolish if you said no. And many younger women see this advantage as a real possibility in dating older guys.

Experience does not just come with common tasks or dreams either. Often older lovers prove best because they take their time to gain a level of intimacy that is rarely found in youthful quick intercourse. What is better a long session that involves hitting all the emotional highs methodically and thoroughly or a quick heated 5 minute romp? Many younger women, and most 30 somethings would agree, would choose the former rather than the latter.

What about stability? Many young men are unstable in all their ways. They cannot hold onto cash, they cannot contain their emotions in the midst of stressful environments, they cannot provide the level if luxury that many older men can afford to provide.

The vast majority of women are about safety and security when it comes to relationships. If a woman feels safe and secure then sex is much more likely to happen because a woman will not have sex with you if she feels unsafe. It is a biological response that is hardwired into their brain. And it makes a lot of sense too.

Sure there are women who are thrill seekers, but I would gamble heavily that the majority would not do it if they had everything to lose. They would only do it if they knew that there was a safety net under them. Rarely do people do dangerous things without some means of safety available. That too is biological.

In this case women who are seeking adventure can also get that adventure with older men who are in shape. Skydiving, scuba diving, sailing, balloon rides, exotic travel, safari, basically anything that will take money and knowledge are available to a younger woman who want to date older men. Young men who are not wealthy and well educated simply are out of their league when the reality of what is available to men of means and experience.

Older men who stay in shape have the best chances to make all those young women seek them out. Staying limber and in great shape will improve the chances of your success! The simple fact is that it does not matter if you are 20 or 60, if you have a ton of restrictions in your your body they are broadcast to every young woman in sight. You can have all the money in the world, dress nice and have a driver in a fancy car and while this will get you attention it will not get you the kind of woman that is naturally attracted to you for more than the safety that money brings.

If you're over the age of 50 and consider yourself shy, the dating world is probably very intimidating. It's possible you haven't been in the dating game for a long time either, so getting back on the horse is always difficult at first. Hey, this is why we're here today. We want to help it be as easy as possible to overcome. Here are a few tips that will have you getting dates left and right without even working hard for them.

Be Open Minded

In the past you probably had a certain type of woman that you felt was best for you. This could include a certain hair color, the right age group, what she enjoys doing, and even how well she looked or dressed. When you reach your fifties some of this criteria can be thrown out the window. After all, you're not trying to find the hottest woman out there; you're trying to find a companion that you can enjoy time with whenever you get together.

So it's possible that the perfect woman for you now is not the same choice as someone you were looking for in your 20s or 30s. The more open minded you are about the choices, the easier it will be to find a date for the evening.

Build Natural Conversation

We know you're probably going to have to work on this a bit, because shy guys have the hardest time having natural conversations. There always seems to be uncomfortable pauses in between the conversation for a shy guy over 50. In order to change this you have to be prepared before you talk with a woman. However, you can't make it sound like you're reading off a checklist. Let everything flow as naturally as possible and she enjoys the time spent with you.

Pick a Secluded Location

One of the biggest mistakes any man makes when picking a location for a date is heading out to the bars. Sure you might have dinner first, but going to a bar is only providing her with a lot more temptation. These are prime spots for single men to be sitting around, so if you want the focus on you then take her somewhere secluded. It doesn't have to be romantic, but just somewhere that isn't surrounded by tons of people.

This will give you a chance to really get to know one another.

Let Her know you're a bit Shy

Well, don't walk up to her and say; "Hi, I'm a bit shy." What we mean by this is just try not to come off as shy during your initial encounter. However, if you get more dates with her, eventually you can let her know how shy you really are around women. By this time, it won't be a big deal, but if you tell her on the first date, she might "shy" away (pun intended).

In the end, if you try all these tips and for some reason they don't work, it's time to take a different route. Consider online dating sites if you can't seem to get over that shy feeling. They allow you to setup a profile so women can see you. This means less work for you, and they will already be interested before you even meet. This will definitely take away from the intimidation factor.